Even some of them that already have men, complain. Women who believe the Lord Jesus Christ is their savior, women who have their own money, and even those who are educated and independent, good looks and nice bodies are having difficulty in having a romantically loving relationship that fulfills them.
Many of those who have men already (married, unmarried but living together, & have a relationship but are living separately) have given up virtually all their power to the man in their lives, giving him control over a relationship for which they are unhappy. And when they stay in those relationships, without demanding the respect they deserve, the guy figures what he does is okay with his woman. Many of these women are willing to be in a living hell just to hold onto a man that doesn’t really deserve them.
Too many ladies in this predicament are professed believers in Jesus Christ and God, yet live lives of depression, unhappiness, disrespect, etc. Do they really think this is what God/Christ wanted for them? Remember, Christ said, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE FOR THOSE WHO BELIEVE! Unless, those beliefs about self and reality are invalid and/or conflicting.
So why, with this incredible Spiritual power available to them, are they living such unfulfilling lives and hold onto bad relationships? Are they misusing and/or misunderstanding the Spiritual doctrines, or is their faith and belief not strong enough to change their circumstances? Too many of these women seem to be empty vessels being used and abused by the men they love. Again, IS THIS WHAT THEY THINK GOD HAS WANTED FOR THEM IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS?
The women who have used their talents to make their lives easier financially, often don’t have men at all or can’t seem to attract a man that fits in well with their flow. Too often, these women attempt to apply the same techniques they use in doing business, as their approach to getting a man. Annk! Most times that doesn’t work. If these women go for a while without a man, they too will sometimes let the man disrespect them through his behavior, hoping to hold on. Why?
The beautiful women who have great faces and/or bodies often think that they’ve done everything they need to do by looking great. But too often those women, caught up in their looks, are some of the most insecure women you want to meet because they don’t believe there is anything more they have to offer than their looks. So they end up picking guys who are as superficial as they are, in judging character, yet stay in relationships without mutual respect and love.
LADIES, HAVING BABIES FOR THESE MEN DON’T CONNECT THEM TO YOU MORE IN A LOVING WAY. IT OFTEN WORKS TO YOUR DISADVANTAGE BY PUTTING MORE OBSTACLES BETWEEN WHERE YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER. SO FORGET HAVING BABIES AS A TACTIC TO GET LOVE. IT STARTS WITH LOVING YOU!
Which brings us to the major reason for this misery – a lack of self love, self worth and self esteem. If you don’t love yourself, why would someone who doesn’t know you, love you? LOOKS? Self love is a major ingredient in being able to recognize who is right or wrong for you.
Love is expression (doesn’t matter what kind of love it is)! Self love is self knowledge manifested or expressed in physical reality. What does that mean? It means, whatever is inside you is to be expressed physically. Too many women don’t recognize or are even aware of the passions or gifts they have within them, that call for expression. How many even know what their feelings and emotions are saying to them? How many have attempted to find out? Do they know their strengths and weaknesses? Do they know how to use Spiritual Law to attract the man who is good for them in a relationship?
Do they know how to recognize a man who is best for them? When a woman truly begins to know herself, she gains knowledge as to who is right for her and who isn’t. It becomes a sifting process. See, the way you gauge who is right for you is like this. THE GREATEST GIFT ONE CAN GIVE TO ANOTHER IS TO ALLOW THE PERSON TO BE WHO AND WHAT THEY ARE! In allowing an individual to be themselves, you then can gauge whether you can accept their flaws or not. If not, don’t try to change them, just let them know what is acceptable and what isn’t. If they don’t want to change – NEXT! See, to accept someone for who they are means accepting the total person, flaws and all.
So this means, any man attempting to control you, change you, abuse you, disrespecting you, etc. is not the man for you. You can tell him the first time it happens, but if it happens again, it’s time to kiss that guy goodbye. Otherwise, your staying with him says to him, IT’S OKAY TO TREAT ME THIS WAY. This is where so many of the women described above are, today! They’re in bad relationships and stay in them for fear of not having a man. Not having a man is better than being in a relationship with the wrong one.
The first step is self love. Get to know who and what you are. You build self love by taking responsibility for the events that occur in your life. Take the responsibility for overcoming the negative aspects of your life, through making better choices. Discover, explore and share your passions/gifts with others. Help others to help themselves. This, is how self love is expanded.
The greater a woman’s self knowledge the greater her ability to attract AND recognize the person who will be a good mate for her.
QUESTION EVERYTHING! THAT’S WHERE THE TRUTH RESIDES.