SNAKE BIT IN LOVE – HOW TO USE DATING AS A TOOL TO A MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP

Too many of us don’t know who and what we are, so how would we know what we want in a mate? The life that many of us talk, we don’t actually live. It’s more like wishful living. The ethics, morality, sincerity, and truth that we think we live, becomes a different story when you’re the main character in the event.

 

Self knowledge is an on-going project due to the infinite avenues and variations on a theme that play out within you. But the more self knowledge you have, the better your choices in life. However, in focusing on your likes and dislikes, your strengths and weaknesses, insuring your beliefs about self and life are based on your own personal experiences versus the beliefs of those you love and respect, and a strong awareness of your passions, you equip yourself with the information necessary to choose a proper mate for you. Many of us make our choices in a mate while we have no idea who we are. Thus, problem love relationships!

 

Passions are those activities you lose yourself in when you engage in them. Time and space get lost in your activity to the point that you can spend hours doing these things and then wonder where the time went. It’s my contention that your passions are your gifts to physical existence. What is inside you seeks to find expression. Your passions are activities you live to do, even if you don’t realize it.

 

Much of our frustration, depression and despair in life stems from this lack of self knowledge. Romantic love is so important in our society because of the number of people who lack self love. We tend to prefer the love of others over our love for ourselves. So romantic love for this individual becomes a long journey until they respond to the lessons of one’s experiences that are telling you what’s truly important. LOVE FOR ONE’S SELF!

 

ARE THERE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WHO FIND TRUE LOVE WITHOUT HAVING FOUND THEMSELVES FIRST?

 

 

 

– Sure all the time! But that encounter doesn’t usually pay off for the individual lacking self knowledge. Why? Because they don’t recognize the prize they have since they are not the whole person, who would be aware of the proper mate. So their behavior would not be in sync with having the proper mate in one’s life.

 

See, the person lacking self knowledge must take many journeys in relationships before they are able to recognize what’s good for them and what’s not. Lacking self knowledge means you look for the superficial things about people that mean little in respect to a meaningful relationship. Looks, money, possessions, what a person does, and how others see you tend to predominate what folks think are important in a mate.

 

Respect, truth, honesty, faithfulness, loyalty, patience, self knowledge, humor, character, passions, ethics, morality, outlook on life, and allowing you to be who and what you are, tend to be items that are secondary to those qualities mentioned in the previous paragraph. As time passes, those things tend to mean less to you. It’s the inner qualities of substance that are meaningful and long lasting.

 

When dating, the person with self knowledge is really going through a sifting process. First, there is no urgency in finding a mate because there is an understanding that this is only a part of what makes the person who they are.

 

 

 

THEY HAVE A LIFE IN THEIR PASSIONS. So dating is basically a game of who is it that I like that I don’t want to change. Does it make this person perfect? Absolutely not! But the fact that you don’t feel the necessity in changing that person is a great sign.

 

Dating is a way of discovering if a person is one you want to take a life journey with, no matter the duration. Every solid relationship isn’t lifelong. Many of us don’t like to realize that. There is a mate that is great for you without children. Then there’s another that’s great for you with children. There’s another mate who will allow you to be who and what you are, but demands that same respect in return. Usually this is the person for you.

 

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS EXIST IN A SPHERE OF MUTUAL ACCEPTANCE OF ONE ANOTHER AS YOU TRULY ARE. ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS ATTEMPT TO LEAD YOU TO THIS ONE.

 

The person with self knowledge may indulge themselves in a relationship that is purely playful, knowing that relationship isn’t going anywhere. The person lacking self knowledge allows these relationships to take them on journeys that often cripple future relationships. Whereas the one with self knowledge uses the relationship as a vehicle to a meaningful one. The important element in these relationships is honesty; so the person knows their place In your life.

 

Anytime we see people as fixer uppers we aren’t allowing them to be who they are. You do yourself, and that individual, a disservice being this way. Sifting through people to come to what you want is much less complicated than taking relationship journeys out of not knowing who and what you are.

 

Dating is a fun vehicle for living life and discovering the proper mate. The seriousness level that many tend to bring to relationships is a road to dating blues and not dating heaven. When you think of the number of people depressed over their relationships or lack of, they’ve created this state with their lack of self awareness.

 

QUESTION EVERYTHING! THAT’S WHERE THE TRUTH RESIDES.