A friend pointed out recently, happiness cannot be fully experienced without suffering through depression. To me, depression is very much like fire; you only have to get burnt one time in order to understand what it is and not be burnt in the future. Sadness and depression are different. Sadness is a momentary or temporary coming down of spirits. Depression is the over-extension of sadness, where the mood and its symptoms define who you are. Many of us think depression and happiness are modes/moods of which you enter and leave, repeatedly.
Those in the throes of depression do not understand and/or realize what that depression represents to them. To understand is to grab something with your reason; not necessarily changing your behavior. To realize is to grasp something not only with one’s reason but also within one’s belief system, which leads to a change in behavior. It’s in that realization which enables the individual to come from under being depressed: with or without the use of drugs and therapy. If I observe you, I can eventually tell what you believe. How? Through your behavior. We act on our beliefs.
My therapy was through self analysis. That analysis came through examining my beliefs with respect to the problems in my life. Why did I believe what I believe? Were my personal experiences the basis of my beliefs? If not, re-examine my life experiences to see if the beliefs are true. If the beliefs are based on what love ones or people I respect have told me, see the previous sentence. A valid belief works 100% of the time. 99% and it’s not valid. Conflicting beliefs are two or more beliefs held simultaneously however oppose each other. Therefore, canceling out one’s objective. Ex. I want a man that’s loyal. Belief: All men are dogs. Creation: No man is true in one’s mind because the belief is no man is loyal. Even if the man is honorable.
YOU CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY THROUGH YOUR BELIEFS.
Being depressed even has the sound of a person accepting an emotion and letting it define them. The idea of living is being. That being is defined by what you do. Not by the things you possess. Often folks who are wealthy financially with all of life’s comforts wonder why they are still unhappy – read the previous two sentences.
There is a malaise that hangs over the U.S. where citizens are depressed, anxious, financially strained, lovelorn (with and without a mate), and stressed out from family pressures. They don’t have enough time to take out an hour a day for themselves. If you’re not happy with what you’re doing, you can’t afford NOT to have an hour to yourself. Even if it means getting up early. Create the new habit of getting to know who you are.
ATTITUDE
– is a key element to establishing your Path Of Happiness. Here are some pertinent things to keep in mind.
LIFE
– is not what you possess, it’s what you do! Choose better activities.
RESPONSIBILITY
– when you interact with others behave as though you are going to be on the receiving end of your actions.
SELF PITY
– without self pity we become invulnerable. When your feelings are hurt, it’s time for self examination. Why am I hurt? Do I believe I am what someone else thinks of me? Why? It’s not the event, it’s how you respond to it. When we don’t allow the words and opinions of others to impinge on how we feel about ourselves – YOU ARE ALMOST SUPER HUMAN.
BE THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WOULD WANT IN YOUR LIFE.
Watch how your life changes. If you don’t like being by yourself, examine why. Shouldn’t you be your best friend? Plus, the type of people you attract in your life changes. Notice the word attract.
THE ANSWERS LIE WITHIN, MY FRIENDS!
The best thing you can do for yourself is to explore your inner life. You sleep a third of your life away, why not check out what’s goin’ on? Thoughts, ideas, intuition, dreams, and the like where do they come from? Who and what am I? Explore your dreams. They are a laboratory for living. Your personal power is within you. You are creating your own reality. Why not create one that is more to your liking? A great man once said, THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS WITHIN. Isn’t it time you checked it out? Why do we put off getting to know ourselves?
FIND YOUR PASSIONS
– They are the path to everything life has to offer.
IF YOU KEEP YOUR WANTS, DESIRES AND EXPECTATIONS TO A MINIMUM, EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS A GIFT. TO LOVE SOMEONE IS TO ALLOW THEM TO BE WHO AND WHAT THEY ARE. EVEN IF IT MEANS NOT HAVING THEM IN YOUR LIFE.
The simplicity of life is only complicated by your ignorance of self.
TAKE THE TOUR!
QUESTION EVERYTHING! THAT’S WHERE THE TRUTH RESIDES.